Week of October 7, 2013
Always a Parent:
Worries About Adult Children
My children were in their 20s when I asked a
at the parish -- the mother of nine, all of them older
than mine -- how she managed not to worry about her kids
all the time. Her answer? "I do worry."
A mom or dad can't turn of the worrying just because a
son or daughter is 20. Or 40. Or 60. (I think of my own
mom who was so concerned about me after Monica died in
These are some points to consider when it comes to
taking care of a parent . . . who's worrying about you:
or paternal instinct isnít something that can be shut off once a
child reaches a certain age. In the midst of your concern for your
parent, he or she is also worried about you. That concern, that
love, has been a cornerstone in your relationship. Itís not about to
suddenly change now.
Your mother canít help but worry
when she sees how much her problems and her needs stretch your
patience, your strength, your schedule. She knows youíre overworked,
frightened, and sad. You can tell her not to worry, but she does
anyway. She sees the truth.
Here are some things you can do to
help ease your parentís mind ó and yours:
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